Hi there! My name is Shannon and I am a first generation active, full-time mom to an energetic, fearless toddler and a needy, nocturnal newborn.
When I think of myself as a first generation mom it is in the same context as a first generation college student. First generation college students enter the world of higher education with no guidance from their parents because neither parent went through the experience, and so the parents have no clue how to counsel the student and can’t really help with setting or managing the expectations of college life.
That sense of breaking new ground in the family has its own set of challenges that often makes the student feel totally alone and, to a degree, puts the student at a disadvantage compared to students of college educated parents who have likely been groomed for the college experience by parents who have “been there, done that.” In that same sense, I am breaking new ground in my immediate family by being a full-time, active parent because neither of my biological parents raised me.
Parenting is hard. It’s rewarding and oh so worth the effort. But any parent who tries to convince you that it’s not hard is setting you up because …well, misery loves company. Do you ever worry that you don’t have enough time, money, or energy to be the best mom you can be? Or do you worry that you can’t “have it all?” Do you fear that you can’t be the best mom without completely failing at everything else? I often do. I constantly worry that my husband and I don’t make enough money to “successfully” raise our children. I constantly worry that as a working mom I don’t spend enough time with my children or that I am not helping my toddler learn the things she needs to know to be prepared for school. I constantly worry that saying “yes” to anything outside of my family comes across as choosing whatever it is over them. It’s overwhelming at times.
When my husband, whose father was never an active parent in his life, and I decided to start a family we gave little to no thought to what starting without that road map from our own parents would mean or how it would influence our parenting. We just both agreed that we would be better parents than the ones we had. By actually wanting to be parents and planning for our first child we felt we were ahead of the game already. But I have come to realize that it does to some degree effect how I parent my children and how critically I judge myself as a mom. So this concept of being a first generation mom is something I will be researching, flushing out, and periodically discussing on my blog.
My overall goal is to help tired, broke, and busy working moms (like myself!) curb that feeling of being overwhelmed and feel more confident and equipped when it comes to parenting and managing the work-life-motherhood balance so they can thrive at motherhood. And so on my blog I discuss the following in hopes of helping you, and me, navigate the sometimes murky waters of motherhood:
- FirstGenMomming it (trailblazing this mom thing when your parents have given you no road map) and all the baggage that comes with that
- Purposeful and passionate parenting
- Work-life-motherhood balance
- Finding financial freedom for your family
- Loving the life you live and choosing the life you love
So welcome and happy reading!